I am almost through Lysa TurKeurst’s book Unglued. I recently read a chapter on the discussion of jealousy and the role that plays in our unglued moments and there was a point where she mentioned that we are each given a specific load to carry… with both good and bad. And we are each handpicked to carry our own load – not someone else’s but our own. So, while someone else’s life may look Brady Bunch-esque, I have to remember that this is a life that God planned for them and yes while it’s full of many positives, they are also tasked with their own set of challenges in life. We are all going to go through our own ups and downs.
As Pastor Furtick says, you can’t compare your behind the scenes to someone else’s highlight reel.
– Maybe the mom in your playgroup seems to have it all together – an organized life, perfectly groomed kids – but behind the scenes her marriage is falling apart because she is too focused on her kids and not her husband.
– Maybe your married friends who go on awesome vacations around the world twice a year seem like they are living the dream, until you find out that they’ve been struggling with infertility for years and years and wish they were tied down at home with little ones.
– Maybe you see the lady in your church who has a huge rock, a brand new luxury car (with all the bells and whistles) and wears all designer labels. It may look nice until you see that she’s racked up tens of thousands in debt over the past few months and her phone rings constantly with creditors calling.
The point is, so often we always see the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. But as they say, if the grass is greener on the other side, we probably need to focus on watering our own side. To pay attention to the challenges and blessings God has tasked for our own walk. And to be satisfied, no grateful, for the journey we’re on – both good and bad.