I’ve been thinking lately about how we ended up where we are today. We all have so many decisions to make each day, week, year – big ones and small ones. I’ve been reflecting on some of the best yes’s I’ve made over the past years to put me where I am today:
Photo by: Love the Schultzes
saying yes to Dean – Dean knows this already, but I never thought I’d be married to Dean. I’d always thought my future mate would be more outgoing, a little more ‘openly romantic’. But I’m glad that who I thought I’d be with isn’t who I ended up with.
I got a million times better than what I thought I’d have. While he doesn’t tango with a flower in his mouth and isn’t always the life of the party (although sometimes he is!), he is the absolute perfect mate for me. He’s a best friend. He’s a partner. And I am so lucky that God helped me see it.
choosing UNC – Wilmington – I was definitely a homebody in high school and hated the idea of leaving home to go to college. I wanted my safety net nearby. I’m glad my parents pushed me out of the nest and forced me to pick a school. I’m also glad I didn’t take the easy option and choose UNCC because it was close to home. But instead, I picked a school that was perfect for my personality – UNC-Wilmington. It’s also where I made some great lifelong friendships, found my future mate and really fell in love with marketing – helping me determine what I wanted to do with my career.
playing volleyball – I played competitive volleyball for many years growing up, but I never thought I’d play in college. I wanted to do my own thing when I went to school and didn’t want the extensive commitment that college athletics requires. While it was great that I got to do my own thing freshman year, I’m glad I went out for the team my sophomore and junior years. Having the structure of volleyball and getting to play competitively for a few more years was a great choice. Plus, I am almost positive I would have never met Dean if I hadn’t played, even though he lived in the townhouse across the street from me!
waiting on the right home – we househunted for 3+ years. Never in a rush, but always dipping our toe in the water when something good came along. And while we put offers on about 10 houses over the years, God definitely orchestrated an awesome family home for us. From great neighbors who’ve become friends, to a great school program within walking distance, lots of kids and more. We are so glad we didn’t settle for some of the other homes and waited it out so that we could end up in our current home.
(an ‘outtake’ from our firm’s photoshoot last year… haha!)
leaving my job to work with my dad – 8 years ago, I made the crazy choice to leave a comfortable job with a big company to start working with my dad at a brand new company he’d just started. I knew it might be risky and not pan out long term. I knew it would be working with family 40+ hours a week. I knew it would be hard work and sometimes stressful work. And I am so glad I did it. I’ve learned so much and our company has grown so much over the years and I’m proud to think back where it was and what it’s become. I love being able to work with my dad. I love that he’s such a great boss not just to me but to everyone in our firm.
having an in-house nanny – when I first started working for my dad, we worked out of his house. When I had Landon, I’d just bring him to work with me and he’d play next to my desk and with my mom who was home for the summer from teaching. He mostly just slept in the room next door in the pack n play to start but as he got mobile, it made sense to find childcare. I’m so glad I was able to find a reasonably priced in-house nanny who loved on him all day while I was just a room away instead of having to send him to a daycare at such a young age. With him at the house with me, I got to take “Landon breaks” throughout the day and see him hit many of his first year milestones while still getting my work done. I was able to keep both boys with me at my home-office (at least part time) until Brooks was about 2 1/2 and it was such a great yes for me to have them with me so much. Really the best of both worlds.
It’s good to reflect on those yes’s and see how God really had his hand in so many things to get us where we are today. How a decision made my senior year of high school would so greatly affect my path 15+ years later. I’m grateful for the way He’s planned and orchestrated my life and the special people who are part of it. I can’t wait to see how some of the yes’s we make in these coming years will play out in the next 15 years.