I know I semi-regularly post how awesome my husband is. I often find myself thanking God that I ended up with him. Someone I love to be around. And someone who does so many little (often unrecognized) things for us.
So yes, I use my blog to sing his praises often. But our relationship isn’t perfect. Yes, I nag my husband and regularly “remind him” of areas I think he’s falling short.
I bring that up because so often people get frustrated in their own relationship when they see how “perfect” other relationships are and get frustrated because they feel their own marriage doesn’t stack up. Trust me, I’m sure my “behind the scenes” looks like yours. A lot of good, but there are moments of tears, resentment, frustration, and more.
When I post about him, I try to be careful how I talk about my husband to others – I really want to sing his praises as much as I can. I want him to feel like I praise him and appreciate him when I talk about him to other people. I don’t want him to feel like I get around my girlfriends and we just talk crap about our spouses. He does too much good for our family.
So I try to praise him in public and address my frustrations in private.
That being said, I am thankful:
- for a husband who takes initiative with the kids activities – including researching and signing Landon up for t-ball or helping him practice his basketball skills in the driveway.
- that Dean is so good with the kids in the evenings. Because of our work schedules he often has the kids home alone for several hours before I finish work (and I know this is the hardest part of the day with kids). But he often has dinner in process and is helping with homework stuff before I get home.
- my husband cares that I get some down time. I don’t know if he’s ever told me I couldn’t do something I wanted to do. If it’s a little “just Ginger” shopping, time for a run, or me asking to host bible study for a few weeks, he rarely says no. (I guess he wants to make his no’s count when he uses them!)
- for small encouragements – like a quick affirmation for something. He knows it’s important for me to be recognized for my wife and mom duties and I’m thankful when he does it.
- that he helps me when I’m drowning. Sometimes it’s just too much and I really loves how he jumps in to help when I feel like I can’t do it all.
- and I’m especially thankful for the days he doesn’t shave and keeps his 5 o’clock shadow. Even when it’s itchy.
Every day I think of more things that I love about him. He’s really gotten better with age 🙂